Contrast between idealistic ideas and practical considerations

Its never so refreshing and rejuvenating than being in the midst of huge bunch of people and still alone sitting in a corner and exploring and analyzing every phenomena occurring.

I just forgot it was the Rose Day! People had roses with them gifted by their loved ones may be, happiness in their eyes. Just then I noticed a girl with a bunch of roses. I thought "Wow! She got so many of them", but no, she went into a shop and gifted one rose to the owner saying "I shop from here very often and thank you for being so helpful". I had never witnessed something like this ever. Often we talk so idealistically but when it comes to incorporating those ideas into practice we generally back off. But this was treat to the eyes.

Then a second angle was added to this thought. One of my friends' said "Valentines' week is just a money making trick, they sell an ordinary rose worth 20-50 bucks. Gifting a rose is not something bad, but if the girl had gifted it on 15th of February (after the D Day), those shop owners would still have felt over-whelmed".

I found "a little" logic into this argument.

I am planning of talking to some more people over this issue. Its important what a "Random Sample" thinks.

Sometimes ago whenever I used to look at someone sitting all alone in a crowded place I used to think how tough is his/her life without friends or without a good company. Now when I am experiencing this peaceful time all alone but with myself it feels a new energy has surrounded me which makes me think in a positive way.

Its not important that your friends sit around you all the time, what is more important is that they stay with you forever although veiled and come out of the fog whenever you need them. Those who sit around you every moment are the ones whom you need to survive, in this fast moving world and mind it, there is a thin line of difference between them and your friends in real sense.

My Dad says, "Lion never hunts in a group", you need to walk alone to achieve what you want, you cannot drag somebody with you where you want to go. But then when I see the reality, it tells a different story. Every one here has few people around them who would help him/her to surpass all the difficulties of their day-to-day life. Those who move alone are termed egoist or abnormal or "how he manages alone?".

Why do we need to socialize if this phrase is true? In today's age they say if you don't have good relationships with your counterparts and colleagues you'll be behind every time you need your work to be done. In short, those counterparts are taken as ladders to walk ahead and up. Now we can very well see the contrast between idealism and the so-called practicality.

I am pondering upon this issue for so long and hope to find the answer soon!

Killing the soul of the society, the so-called saints

People worship these Saints like they are the messenger of the Almighty. Just look at the crowd emerging at the places where they preach, as if the preachers are distributing gold or something! Its look like a lot and lot of people are believing in them so much as if they really have some divine powers.

You must be remembering the case with Nirmal baba. He was even accused of buying hotels from the donations he received through his big "Fan following".

Can anyone clarify upon what a "Saint" (A God sent human) would do with a chain of hotels? Or simply what would he do with this much wealth? And you must be remembering his unique solutions to your problems - eat something, go here, go there, and you will be sorted. This in itself was an indication that the solution of your problem lies inside you. Its your faith, whether you establish it in a Saint or within you.

Same was the case with Baba Ramdev. What an immense wealth he possessed! He was reported buying land abroad, on islands etc. Somehow I believe on Yog-Aasans that he used to teach. Once my Grandfather encountered serious joint injury 2-3 years back that he could not even walk . So we went to his Yog Aashram near Haridwar. I was astonished to see the charges they were imposing for rooms, meals etc.

Is this the way you claim to treat people, a social service accompanied by heavy charges?

And how will poor people be benefited by your "super hit" treatments?

And then hopping into the issues of politics by a Yog Guru was another blunder committed by him.

And then came Asaram Bapu into the picture.

The allegations on him are not just money-oriented but worst than that. A girl (daughter of Asaram's follower) in Rajasthan (Jodhpur) came out with an allegation on him that he raped her. Of course media hyped the issue so much and filled the minds of us, the non-believers of him with more of mistrust and hatred. I still can't say what's the truth but if there is fire of this much intensity then there must be a slight spark somewhere surely.

Remember his statement about Nirbhaya case? He said that she should have held one one of the culprit's hand and called him "bhaiyya". How idiotic! So, according to him rapes are fault of girls because they don't call the rapists as Bhaiyya.

As it unfolded I think I got a strong opinion against these money-minded preachers of the society. I may be wrong to some extent but not entirely.

Analyzing my First Life experiences From childhood till date

Life doesn't move along with a simple answer of a general question. In fact as we grow up the questions' (posed by our surrounding or our inner self or both) complexity increases exponentially an that too without any warning. I am analyzing my experiences with my life here from the time I began understanding the term "I".

What I can remember faintly about my first dream was that I wanted to become a doctor. Why? I don't have a reason of my own, Its just that my Grandpa wanted so. The only positive impact of the dream - I started studying hard from my childhood itself. Then the dream kept on changing as I grew up from doctor to engineer to an IAS officer to a writer. what I can sense is that your dreams are not entirely yours because your family plays a role here in wither way, One way family may give new directions and new zenith to your dream and the other way it can limit your flight. I don;t know what happened to me in this case.

My first stage experience was in 5th standard as a participant in Hindi speech competition. I stood second because my speech lacked "fire" in it as compared to my friend, entirely the drawback of my family background. Well, I switched to "English" mode and there I was the Ace. Then I didn't stop for those 4 years and rocked the stage in all forms of extra-curricular activities from debate to declamation to singing to dancing to acting to anchoring to writing. But after that Drastic change appeared when I changed my school. The whole scenario changed. An active participator became a passive listener. Trend is still continuing. I don't know why!

First relationship for me on this Earth is Mother, which surely have the same intensity for all of us. This special relation gave meaning to my entire life and she is still the same, "A mother will always be a mother who gives her entire life for the betterment of her kids". My mom is no different. She is still shaping up my life and career and future. I owe it entirely to her and I guess always will. This is the only thing in my life which is unchanged.

Moving on to my First relationship with the world "Friend". It happened probably in 1st or 2nd standard. I even don't remember their faces and even no great memories associated with it. Growth showed me many such people, some are still there in my life, some I've lost and some lost me. What I can say is that I have "few" friends who love me, care for me, ready to do things for me at this point of time and I am contented with them.

I never understood the exact definition of love or may I say Love can never be defined with mere words. But it surely isn't JUST the physical relationship as interpreted by many men and women. I strongly condemn your idea and would like you to go and analyze yourself about the consequence of such mentality. And people's tendency of break up and patch up irritates me completely. Considering Life and Love as joke today's youngster will end up nowhere.