Daughter of a middle class family brought up like a princess

Whether it be movies or houses in reality, you all must have noticed mothers shouting behind their daughters to make them learn household works even in today's age, forget about the time long back when girls were even not sent to schools.

And then I got to know about a girl who has an altogether different experience regarding life.

She was born in an entirely lower-middle class family. At that time her mother was a housewife and father an unemployed elder son of a miser family. You can imagine how difficult the Life would have been for them!

As her Mom says. "I cried a lot whenever I saw my daughter wearing a torn frock. I always wanted to give her everything. I felt broken from inside whenever I had to feed her water due to unavailability of milk, an irresponsible behaviour by my in-laws."

You must be wondering "what kind of princess is this girl?".

But then  after four years of her birth she was out of that miser jail along with her younger brother, Mom and Dad and entered into a new world "Delhi" where her father got posted as a teacher. But a meager salary has never helped any family.

And hence starts a common journey of parents to feed their children when they themselves lived with half empty stomach. But they never let their children feel anything like that.

Time kept flowing away and this family slowly and steadily collected every thing of luxury (almost) which is needed in today's age.

This girl still remembered how at the age of 13 (In 2004) her family got their first telephone (Tata Indicom - the cheapest one) but ultimately they had one. The best part was she always understood what life was for her parents and hence never complained about anything.

She was always allowed to do anything and go anywhere on just one condition, she should at least tell to her parents where she was going. Acceptable? Of course yes.

She (along with her brother) was sent to a reputed convent school without caring about the amount they would be charging and hired a van for conveyance (when their relatives started taunting them). One more thing, she never got a pocket money as her mother would say, "I will provide you with everything you need or desire, why do you need a fixed amount everytime?" She agreed to it having calculated the pros and cons mathematically.

Then comes the adolescence - the age where children need special care without being chained.

And the girl got a friend in her mother. Of course she could never discuss her crush with her mom but indirectly she did that as well.

Okay, she got slapped as well, beaten up with 'comb' for all silly mistakes till 8-9 years "but never after that".

Having successfully crossed the adolescence age without any blunders, she then stepped into her early adulthood, the age from where an Indian girl confronts every idiotic comment regarding her marriage.

I just read on facebook - "Nobody is going to marry you if your roti is not round", and I could not stop myself from laughing out loud.

But nothing of that sort happened to this girl. She was never told to do any work at home whatever she did was her own will. The major focus was studies all the time. And tell me just one thing which she demanded and she did not get. Although sometimes the demand fulfillment took a year or two, but it happened.

And now, 2013, she is 21 years of age. She received a news that her grand mom wants her to get married now, this just left her baffled. Again Mother comes to her rescue and says, "You study and forget about everything else in this world. Whatever is going to happen will happen anyway, don't worry."

Trust me, she still don't do any of the household works unless her mom is ill or any emergency situation hops in.

Her brother too treats her like a princess and in every condition thinks about his sister that how will she cope up with life and guides her every time (like an elder brother).

There was a lot to say but when did I cover the journey of 1991 to 2013 I myself didn't realize.

But yes, the girl is thankful to God to have got such a great family!

First Teaching Experience as a trainee Part 1

Actually I was never so much afraid of teaching a class and even sometimes feel that teaching is in my genes. Earlier I have explained concepts to my friends and then I became so sure that I have this capability in myself.
The course which I am indulged into (B.Ed.) "forces" every student to undergo a teaching experience for 40 days in a school, not 40 days continuously but 4 days in school and Monday & Friday lectures in college (per week).
Things become much more complicated and difficult when you know that you are judged in this regard. I fortunately got a government school to teach, fortunate because I can see a lot of benefit in having government school students to teach :

• You will find your actual capabilities in extremely adverse conditions without any facilities in a government school.
• You will be facing the exact scenario of the atmosphere which the children of your society are experiencing.
• A small benefit of mine - "Hindi" being the medium of transaction and my mother tongue makes my job of curriculum transaction easier.

But yes, everything has its own negative side - The principal of the school as one of her own kind who considered everyone else as inferior. She was living just for her own prestige without thinking about the betterment of students or even teachers for that matter. She herself used to arrive in school in a nice big car and used to be fully loaded with makeup and stepping an hour late into the school but she could never tolerate her teachers and students coming late. I have seen her slapping a girl fiercely and shutting the gate of school in front of a teacher and not letting her in for this reason. So you may very well understand that when the roots of the institution are this much damaged morally then expecting the ultimate goal of education - character building - is impossible.

But yes We as teacher can still try our best to set an ideal example in front of our students so that they may get inspired from us and give us sincere and morally sound educated citizens of India.

Analyzing my First Life experiences From childhood till date

Life doesn't move along with a simple answer of a general question. In fact as we grow up the questions' (posed by our surrounding or our inner self or both) complexity increases exponentially an that too without any warning. I am analyzing my experiences with my life here from the time I began understanding the term "I".

What I can remember faintly about my first dream was that I wanted to become a doctor. Why? I don't have a reason of my own, Its just that my Grandpa wanted so. The only positive impact of the dream - I started studying hard from my childhood itself. Then the dream kept on changing as I grew up from doctor to engineer to an IAS officer to a writer. what I can sense is that your dreams are not entirely yours because your family plays a role here in wither way, One way family may give new directions and new zenith to your dream and the other way it can limit your flight. I don;t know what happened to me in this case.

My first stage experience was in 5th standard as a participant in Hindi speech competition. I stood second because my speech lacked "fire" in it as compared to my friend, entirely the drawback of my family background. Well, I switched to "English" mode and there I was the Ace. Then I didn't stop for those 4 years and rocked the stage in all forms of extra-curricular activities from debate to declamation to singing to dancing to acting to anchoring to writing. But after that Drastic change appeared when I changed my school. The whole scenario changed. An active participator became a passive listener. Trend is still continuing. I don't know why!

First relationship for me on this Earth is Mother, which surely have the same intensity for all of us. This special relation gave meaning to my entire life and she is still the same, "A mother will always be a mother who gives her entire life for the betterment of her kids". My mom is no different. She is still shaping up my life and career and future. I owe it entirely to her and I guess always will. This is the only thing in my life which is unchanged.

Moving on to my First relationship with the world "Friend". It happened probably in 1st or 2nd standard. I even don't remember their faces and even no great memories associated with it. Growth showed me many such people, some are still there in my life, some I've lost and some lost me. What I can say is that I have "few" friends who love me, care for me, ready to do things for me at this point of time and I am contented with them.

I never understood the exact definition of love or may I say Love can never be defined with mere words. But it surely isn't JUST the physical relationship as interpreted by many men and women. I strongly condemn your idea and would like you to go and analyze yourself about the consequence of such mentality. And people's tendency of break up and patch up irritates me completely. Considering Life and Love as joke today's youngster will end up nowhere.

Experiences captured with a vision

Branded pigeons ;)

Fast food being enjoyed by a "Sanyasi"

We Indians find faith and belief beneath a tree as well!

The rising Sun

Glorious City

It looks like that the temple is hanging in the air!

Clouds or Fog?

Colors of Life

"Real" and not a statue!

The broken Line..

Income depends upon this for a large number of population!

Condition of trains!

And the Sun set!